What Does a Breakthrough Look Like? Me Being Arrested!

This was me six years ago. Four police officers came to my house at 11:10pm on a Monday night in early September. They were prepared to take me to jail for being a violent offender.

I was in shock, disbelief, and panicked.

WTF is going on and why me?

In those seconds while the police put handcuffs on me, a number of stories came streaming into my mind – Which friend is playing a terrible trick on me? What will my neighbours think? What is going on? I don’t understand any of this!

When they told me they needed to take me down to the precinct, I went into panicked action. I explained they can’t do this because I have 4 kids at home and a husband out of town. They had this all wrong. At that moment I stepped up and started advocating for myself and my kids.

And then the wheels came off.

They realized they had the wrong person. OOPS! As they started to apologize, I went back into people pleasing mode. At that moment, I was literally ready to invite them inside for coffee and help them feel better about the mistake they made.

Can you imagine? I was the victim of their mistake and I felt responsible for their feelings and wrong doing! I wanted to make THEM feel better.

And here’s where the breakthrough came for me.

I literally had to be arrested to see how I was living my life – to please others. I was the fixer, the eater of everyone else’s shit, the peacekeeper, the holder of secrets. I capitulated, rolled over, and sacrificed myself. And I believed that this was how I was supposed to live my life.

Ah ha moment – This was no longer okay and I needed to change my story.

I needed to step up and advocate for myself and it was the start of my unraveling and re-building. I’m so grateful for that day because I wouldn't be here, living my life more fully and authentically.

And the beauty of being a life coach, I get to walk with and witness my clients having powerful breakthroughs and IT IS LIFE CHANGING!

We come together to have meaningful and honest conversations. We are able to go deeper into understanding the stories and beliefs about themselves that have kept them held hostage from moving forward in their lives. Getting to the bottom of what fears are present and bringing them into the light provides powerful transformation.

I don’t recommend getting arrested to have a breakthrough. I do highly encourage and invite you all to talk to a coach – this is my job and I’m happy to work with you.