“Yah, yah, I’ll get to it . . . tomorrow!”

Procrastination – can I get a hands up? Who’s with me . . .

We are so busy doing, doing, doing. What we say we want is – more time to ourselves, more opportunities to do the things we love, more happiness and fulfillment, more ___________.

And yet, we continue to let fear take control. Fear of missing out, fear of looking selfish, fear of disappointing ourselves and others, fear of being alone with our thoughts and feelings.

It’s so much easier to be busy because the alternative; even though that’s what we claim we want, feels scary. It’s easier to blame others or “the system” or ourselves than it is to take responsibility and accountability.

It’s easier to be closed than it is to be open.

And yet, how is this working for you?

I procrastinated going to the gym for 30 years afraid to look foolish and awkward, going for therapy for decades because I was afraid to tell the truth and be accountable, investing time in myself, my dreams, and my desires because I was afraid I’d look selfish or too big for my britches.

I procrastinated taking intentional time for myself for years because I believed a story that said I wasn’t allowed and I needed permission from “them”. If I dig deeper, at the heart of all these procrastinations, I believed I didn’t matter, so why even try.

Because it felt like every time I tried, someone or something would interfere or take it away. Someone or something always became more important than me.

“They” became my fear’s scapegoat.

Every time I did this, I gave my power away. And that sucked – not only the joy, but the very life force that flows through me.

And so my resentment felt justified and kept me stuck not taking a chance, not being curious about the possibilities, and seeing every challenge as an obstacle, not an opportunity.

I plodded through the weeds of being a victim and a cheerleader to others for most of my life. It took courage, curiosity, and creativity; along with a belief in myself, to find my way onto solid ground and into a growth mindset that is open and willing to take a chance.

So what’s stopping you from doing what you really want, what really matters?

What is standing in the way of you making a choice for change and being responsible for it?